be-musings

I recently finished reading Fatherhood, by Bill Cosby. It's an easy read; anecdotal, funny, yet also thought provoking. In one of the sections he talks about why people have children. The chapter title is "Sweet Insanity". Among the jokes, he has this to say:
Some people call a baby a 'symbol of our love', feeling that just the two of them would not be symbol enough. The sad truth is, there are people who marry, grow away from each other, get divorced, and then take this symbol of their love and tell it to hate the other mate.
Ouch. Now if you're separated or divorced and reading this, you might understand what it means. Usually we see that truth in others more than in ourselves, but it is often truth none-the-less. And to be honest, you don't have to be in a break up to wield the sword of playing children against the other parent.
At times I think that we grown ups are children in bigger bodies. Immature in our weak moments, when we're hurt or we want someone to like us who doesn't. I can be competitive, and hold it back to not let that nature creep into relationships. A relationship is best when each person serves the other, not themselves.
I have had some other thoughts which aren't fusing together, so I'll end there. The rest will come in the right time.