Saturday, May 06, 2006
"The Talk"
Matthew has asked me to have a baby so he can have a younger brother. I explained that this would never happen, and he wanted to know why. I said that I wasn't sure I could have a child, and that Scott definitely couldn't have any more children. Matthew asked me why it mattered about Scott not being able to have children.
Oh man. My brain was racing. How do I answer a question like that?
"Because a baby is made by a man and a woman. The woman can't make a baby by herself. She needs a man too." Desiring to put distracting humour into it I said "We're not like worms who can have babies all by themselves. And a man can't have a baby all by himself." Mathew thought the latter was obvious, because he has never seen a pregnant woman in his few years on this earth. Then he asked me how it is that the man and the woman together make a baby.
Oh man again. I think I quickly explained that the woman has part of the baby "needs" and the man the other, and together they make the baby. Pretty vague still hey? He of course asked me how, so I did what any intelligent woman does when approached with a sex question. I pointed to nature shows.
"They mate. Matthew, have you ever seen animals mate on TV shows?" He said yes. I asked him how we would explain what the animals do. He said "They 'get together'." My reply?
"That's right Matthew. That's a good answer. I'm very happy with that answer..." and under my breath I said..."I don't exactly know what that answer means, but I'm glad for it." Then we started making jokes. Phew.
Sex talk #1 done.
Oh man. My brain was racing. How do I answer a question like that?
"Because a baby is made by a man and a woman. The woman can't make a baby by herself. She needs a man too." Desiring to put distracting humour into it I said "We're not like worms who can have babies all by themselves. And a man can't have a baby all by himself." Mathew thought the latter was obvious, because he has never seen a pregnant woman in his few years on this earth. Then he asked me how it is that the man and the woman together make a baby.
Oh man again. I think I quickly explained that the woman has part of the baby "needs" and the man the other, and together they make the baby. Pretty vague still hey? He of course asked me how, so I did what any intelligent woman does when approached with a sex question. I pointed to nature shows.
"They mate. Matthew, have you ever seen animals mate on TV shows?" He said yes. I asked him how we would explain what the animals do. He said "They 'get together'." My reply?
"That's right Matthew. That's a good answer. I'm very happy with that answer..." and under my breath I said..."I don't exactly know what that answer means, but I'm glad for it." Then we started making jokes. Phew.
Sex talk #1 done.
// posted by Annette @ 10:44 p.m. 