Wednesday, September 28, 2005
A woman, married to a banker, complained about her husband not trusting her with simple things. For an example she talked about the bedtime routine they had. As he slipped into bed he would ask her if she locked the front door. She would reply yes, and he would slip back out of bed "just to be sure". He would go to the front door and feel the knob, checking things over once more before going to sleep for the night. This frustrated her, as it indicated to her that he didn't trust what she said. The counselor asked her what it was that she appreciated about her husband, and what attracted her to him years prior. She said it was his stability, dependability and provision. The counselor pointed out that those traits made him a good bank employee. Those qualities played out in a different way in his bedtime routine. It wasn't that he didn't trust her, but he was ensuring that he protected his family when he did that. He had to be the one to make sure everything was safe.
Many times what we are attracted to in our mate or friend becomes what we despise. The passionate person who is attracted to a calm person finds them boring and uninvolved after the years pass. They may long for someone more passionate, like themselves. The opposite can also hold true for the quiet person who finds themselves managing a relationship with an outgoing person whose public actions "embarrass" them. The communicator attracts a listener who seems not to take part in future conversations, much to the frustration of the initiator.
The things that we find as strengths in others can also be weaknesses, and vice versa. The person who "says the wrong thing" in groups can also be the most amazing motivational speaker. The analytical person flourishes when that gift is needed, but at times can drive others crazy with the endless angles from which a decision is contemplated before finalized. You can think of other examples yourself from your own life.
In my strengths I am weak. "In my weakness he is strong". I'm learning to see the strength in others' weaknesses.
Many times what we are attracted to in our mate or friend becomes what we despise. The passionate person who is attracted to a calm person finds them boring and uninvolved after the years pass. They may long for someone more passionate, like themselves. The opposite can also hold true for the quiet person who finds themselves managing a relationship with an outgoing person whose public actions "embarrass" them. The communicator attracts a listener who seems not to take part in future conversations, much to the frustration of the initiator.
The things that we find as strengths in others can also be weaknesses, and vice versa. The person who "says the wrong thing" in groups can also be the most amazing motivational speaker. The analytical person flourishes when that gift is needed, but at times can drive others crazy with the endless angles from which a decision is contemplated before finalized. You can think of other examples yourself from your own life.
In my strengths I am weak. "In my weakness he is strong". I'm learning to see the strength in others' weaknesses.
// posted by Annette @ 10:52 p.m. 